Pollyanna (alicenwndrln) wrote,
Pollyanna
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I was having this interesting discussion with someone the other day. We have polar opposites views on gift-giving. I was raised to show gratitude for the thought of a gift, whether I like it or not. When my great-aunt Helen gave me a crappy gift for Xmas one year, I didn't roll my eyes or clam up in silence or ask her why in the HELL she bought me that. I smiled & simply said, "Thank you!" I didn't lie & gush on & on about how much I LOVED it, just simply thanked her for the thought & effort.

Well, this other person equates saying "thank you" when you don't like a gift as lying. It's deceitful to thank someone when you don't appreciate that particular gift.

My argument is that you aren't thanking the person for that gift per se, as much as you are just thanking them for the thought. I feel it's ungrateful to not show appreciation, even when you DON'T care for the gift. Sometimes, the person might have put a lot of thought & effort into picking out that ugly sweater for you, picking one they *THOUGHT* you would like, & their feelings could be hurt if you blurt out, "What in the HELL made you think I would like this ugly ass sweater? Did you keep the receipt?" (And yeah, then you find out they crocheted it just for you....oooops.)

I just feel you should ALWAYS say "thank you" for EVERY gift you receive, no matter what it is or how much you like it. If you could desperately use some cash, & your grandma gives you a cash gift...a donation in your name to her fave charity....you STILL say, "Thank you, that was really thoughtful."

But again, this is just the way I was raised, & also the way *I* feel it should be. But I realize that I am usually the odd bird. So now I am curious. I made this quiz to see how other people feel, & to see if I can connect any factors as to why you might think the way you do. The answers can only be viewed by me, so BE HONEST!

Thanks in advance for participating!

When someone gives you a gift, whether you LIKE that gift or NOT, do you show appreciation?

Yes
58(98.3%)
No
0(0.0%)
It depends
1(1.7%)

Is that the way you were raised, or your adult independent thought?

It's the way I was raised.
10(16.9%)
It's my own adult independent thought, damnit!
5(8.5%)
Both
44(74.6%)

Where were you raised?

The South
15(25.4%)
The North
6(10.2%)
The Mid-West
11(18.6%)
The West
12(20.3%)
Outside the US
8(13.6%)
Other (?)
7(11.9%)

Growing up, was your family:

Poor
2(3.4%)
Blue Collar
10(16.9%)
Middle Class
34(57.6%)
Upper Middle Class
10(16.9%)
Wealthy
3(5.1%)

If you answered "it depends" on question #1, what does it depend on?

Any comments? Thoughts you'd like to share? Personal opinions on this topic?

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