I'm gonna remove some people off my friends list whom I never see around.....so if you are "lurking" & enjoy reading my journal, but just haven't contributed yet, speak up now or forever hold your peace!
***edit*** If you respond occasionally, & we converse here & there, you are not in jeopardy! I am referring to the people on my friends list whom I NEVER see respond, never email, never IM, nothing....those "invisible" friends. And it's nothing personal, I just don't have room for people who don't occasionally participate (participation on EVERY post is most certainly not necessary or desired....just OCCASIONAL participation).
So, if you are interested in the poll results from my "do you show appreciation for ANY gift, whether you like it or not" poll....here they are.
A whopping 98.3% (58 votes) always show appreciation for a gift, whether they like it or not. They 98.3% of people polled agree that showing appreciation for the THOUGHT of a gift isn't the same as saying, "I LOVE it!" 1.7% (1 vote) said "it depends." No one said "no," they don't show appreciation when they get a gift they don't like.
When asked if you came to this conclusion because you were either raised that way, it's your own independent thought, or both:
10 votes (16.9%) said they were raised that way
5 votes (8.5%) said it was their own independent adult thought
44 votes (74.6%) said it was both
When asked where you were raised (& I left out the East, d'oh!):
15 votes (25.4%) were from the South
12 votes (20.3%) were from the West
11 votes (18.6%) were from the Mid-West
8 votes (13.6%) were from outside the US
7 votes (11.9%) were from "other"
6 votes (10.2%) were from the North
When asked the financial status of your family growing up:
34 votes (57.6%) were raised middle class
10 votes (16.9%) were raised upper middle class
10 votes (16.9%) were raised in a blue collar family
3 votes (5.1%) were raised in a wealthy family
2 votes (3.4%) were from a poor family
My findings are that most people ARE raised to appreciate any gift, whether they like it or not, & furthermore, most people stick to the way they were taught when they become adults.
The voter who selected "it depends" said that because he/she has gotten some gifts out of spite, & if it's that kind of gift, he/she does not show gratitude...but if it's a gift out of love, he/she does.
Here are the random comments that were made, with the voter's name removed from the comment, to protect their privacy.
"I am always gracious for anyone who takes time to buy a present. It's definitely the thought that counts for me. Doesn't mean I won't throw it away though."
"a gift is a gift, not an accumulation"
"It's the *right* thing to say TY for the thought AND their time & effort!!"
"It's common courtesy to show appreciation for the thought and not necessarily the gift."
"it always brings great joy to my heart when someone randomly gives me something.. it's nice to be though of, you know? even if I don't show it like super beaming oh-my-god-i'm-so-damned-excited on the outside... the inside is"
"It's called respect."
"Key word here is POLITENESS. Treat someone how you'd want to be treated. I think that dictates behavior in this situation, among so many others."
"It's the thought that counts...right!?!"
"I was so poor when I was a kid getting a present period was something to be happy about."
"golden rule, baybeeeeee. In all matters."
"I think the thought does deserve appreciation, even if the gift is bad or whatever."
"I was raised to always thank the person over the phone or in person, and follow it up with a thank you note."
"As I was always taught, and continue quite firmly to believe, it's the thought that counts."
"I appreciate the thought of friends giving me things."
"People today just have no common courtesy."
"We were taught that a gift is something special, not something to be expected, and that any gift is worthy of gratitude for the though, effort, and expense put into it. I still very much believe that."
"I firmly believe that if someone goes out of there way to do something for you, or give you something, you should thank them. Whether or not you particularly enjoy it. That's just how I feel, though."
"Kids are fucking rude." (editor's note: heh-heh to that comment)
"If I put a lot of thought into getting someone a gift, and they ended up disliking it and it was apparent because they gave a disappointed look or didn't say thank you, I would probably never get them a gift again."
Thanks to everyone who participated!!! :-)