December 17th, 2002

real Alice

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It's with a heavy heart that I even *think* about this, but I am considering making this friends-only. Either that, or all but the most mundane posts (which some of you may think are all of them, heh) will be locked. I hate to make it "friends only," because how will I make new friends? That is something I love about LJ. I love having lurkers (the good hearted kind, not the stirring up trouble kind).

So....if you lurk & you don't want to not be able to read me anymore, may I suggest you add me to your friends list? It doesn't mean you will have any obligation to post, respond, etc...it doesn't mean I will start reading yours. I guess it probably wouldn't be the end of the world for any of you. But I wanted to offer up this chance in case I DO go "friends only." And for certain lurkers who love my journal (you know who you are!), I would be willing to email you my journal entries (the main ones), if you don't have a journal.

I would hate to lose all my fun lurkers. I'd hate to not be able to make new friends through here. I don't know what to do. But you might want to add me, if you are a lurker...although I will make an announcement when I make a firm decision. This tears me up to even have to consider it. But....mean people suck. *grin*
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real Alice

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Poll #84695 Journal access

Should I close up shop & make my journal "friends only" due to recent events?

Yes. You seem sensitive, so it might be the best option for you.
1(2.4%)
No. For one thing, you are giving in, for another, people can still read your user page & mock that. Going "friends only" won't change that.
8(19.5%)
Yes & No....do most posts "friends only," but keep some more lighthearted ones public.
23(56.1%)
Other.
9(22.0%)

If you said "other," what else should I do?

Any other comments?

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real Alice

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Dear Bitter, Resentful People,

I don't understand why people who have miserable lives, or HAD a miserable life growing up, take it out on those who didn't.

No one has any control over the situation they were born into. If you were born into money, no one should hold that against you (unless you act like a snobby, spoiled brat). If you were born into poverty, no one should hold that against you (unless you act like trash). If you were abused as a child, that doesn't make it right or good for you to hold onto that bitterness & resentment as an adult. "Well, my childhood sucked, THAT'S why I am a miserable adult. I have a RIGHT to be mean & nasty, cause life was mean & nasty to me." Bullshit. Rise above. Hundreds of people do it every day. If you choose to wallow in bitterness, you are mainly hurting yourself.

I am a sunny person by nature. Even when at my lowest, I will still try to find something to smile or joke about. I get down due to present circumstances, but STILL am not mean to others, or cruel, or negative to others...only to myself!

I am sick of people acting like there is something WRONG with happy people. Like there's something wrong with people who didn't have TERRIBLE childhoods (and that's all relative, cause mine was certainly rougher than SOME...but not nearly as bad as others). Like I am a horrible person because *I* had awesome parents who loved me & didn't abuse me. It makes me sad when people are resentful of other people's lives. I am broke right now, but don't get bitter & resentful when I hear a friend just got a PS2, or someone bought a new car, or got a new job, or has money to spare....rather, I am HAPPY that my friends have things when I don't. I am happy for them. I wouldn't wish my current woes on my worst enemy. Being bitter about what other people have that I don't, or over someone having had a "better" life than I did growing up, doesn't get me anywhere. Besides....people may have negative things in their life that you may not know about. Rarely is anyone ALL "sunshine & roses."

If you are a bitter, negative person...that's one thing. You obviously enjoy wallowing in your bitterness & resentment. Hey, whatever floats your boat. If you don't WANT to rise above or don't have the strength to, that's your thing. But to try to bring others down to your bitter level, or to be resentful that others are happy when you are miserable...that's just not cool. To hate someone for being sunny or being happy or having great friends who love them or for having a good family....that's so not cool.

You wanna wallow in your negativity, fine. But keep it to yourself, & stop resenting people who have more than you do, or who had a happy childhood, or who weren't abused, or who are more attractive than you, or smarter, or more witty, etc. EVERYONE has something valuable to offer. Where someone excels & you don't, you are sure to excel somewhere THEY don't. One man's trash is another man's treasure, right? We all gotta deal with the hand we were dealt, & you aren't dealing very well.

Signed,
The "Princess"
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real Alice

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I'm probably going to start making a lot of posts "friends only." If you lurk, tell me your name here & I will add you to my friends list so that you can still follow along.....with no pressure or obligation to add me back (I know some people PREFER to just lurk, not connect). :-) I know there's quite a few of you, so just fess up IF you want to be able to keep reading everything! No one can see this but me.




***EDIT*** If you are already on my friends list, no need to respond her, ya bunch of sillyheads! *grin*
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frustrated

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Work was canceled due to rain. You already know that.

It was pouring. Knott's decided to close the whole park at 3PM (they close at 6 on weekdays, anyway). Then it stopped pouring. The sun almost came out. Right around the time I would have clocked in.

We could have worked.

Damn El Nino!
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real Alice

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Reason #564 why I hate beer:

Some arsehole leaving a GLASS beer bottle in a black bag for me to run over with my tire in the North Hollywood Diner parking lot.
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real Alice

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Momme Dot appears to be okay. I talked to my Aunt Sara tonight. It seems that she passed out due to how much weight she had lost. She got down to 84.5 pounds, & her body just kinda shut down. A heart can't take that...especially if you are doing a lot of running around & barely eating. So she basically needs to start eating more, & not worrying so much about her weight & her cholesterol at 79 years old. Her heart tested fine...that's a great thing.

I talked to Garry Marshall's assistant today. She said, "I have your Xmas gift here. I told a hint. I won't tell you what it is, but the initials are V.W." Garry usually gets me perfume every year, so this year I requested Vera Wang. Yipppeeee! I haven't had a new perfume in so long, so this is a treat (I know, you don't understand). It's like a $75 perfume, so no telling when I'd ever have been able to buy that for myself! YAY!

I got a gift from a friend. She got me Cake, by Urban Decay. She got the LAST one available in all of LA County! It's this sparkling body powder that you wear (obviously), but it's scented like cake & TASTES like cake. It's not like one of those things that says "edible" & then it takes like crap. I swear, this tastes like cake! So if I ever date again, I can wear it, be all sparkly & yummy smelling, & then he can lick it off & enjoy it! :-) Anyone wanna taste me? *wink*

My girlfriends are sleeping over on Friday night. We are going out for a plate of cheese, & then coming back, & Wilfredo, my masseuse (when I can afford it, which hasn't been in a long while) is coming over to give massages. He's so cheap....$10 for 15 minutes, $20 for a half hour, $40 for an hour. That's so crazy cheap. The girls are SOOO excited.

robont did such a nice job with my Babes of Xmas pics. He always does me right (and hey, who wants to be done wrong?). I so appreciate the kind words everyone had to say about me, coming on the heels of people saying such nasty things. It really ran the gamut....nasty stuff...to complimentary stuff. All in one day. It was much needed & I thank everyone who was nice to me today. I definitely know who my real friends are, & I value every one of ya!

*hugs*
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