thoughtfulHeh-heh! So anyway, I went to go check again around 7:55, & Sammy was literally just walking through the door. I recognized him instantly. We said our hellos, & I told him he had to come meet my friend & her family really fast, cause they thought I was making him up...or that he was standing me up. He gets really nervous, thinking he's going to have to pass the "friend test" so quickly, or perhaps thinking I invited my friends along to meet him. I introduce him to Erin, her mom & aunt, & we go back to sit & wait for our table. Suddenly, I feel my purse vibrating, & realize I am getting a phone call. No one ever calls me. So I excuse myself, & see to my amusement, on the caller ID, that it was Erin calling me. I say, "Yessss?" And she says, "He's cute, & my auntie Deb wants his email address. OK, bye, have fun." :-) Silly girl. Wow, if I sent Auntie Deb the picture of him with his shirt off (he is seriously cut), she'd REALLY want his email addy! So we go back to eat, & we didn't leave until a good 10:15 or so. We were among the last people to leave, & it was PACKED when we got there. He said he's here until the end of the week, & he'd love to see me again if he can.
Well, I have mixed feelings on all this. I mean, if he calls me, yes, I would probably definitely see him again. But no way in HELL am I going to get involved with a guy who lives clear across the country. He lives in CHICAGO, for Jiminy's sake! If I had or he had oodles of money, it would be a different story. But I cannot EVER (right now) afford to fly there (I DO love Chicago, though), & I wouldn't/couldn't expect him to fly here all the time, especially since he actually has a job. I am adamantly opposed to long distance relationships. No disrespect intended, but I think people who willingly get involved in a l.d.r. are fools. I am not talking about people who's s.o. travel a lot. Or being heavily involved with someone & he/she has to go away for 6 months....I am talking about person A living in California & person B living in Chicago & them saying, "I think we can make this work." Bullshit. That's just pure crap. I wouldn't even want to get involved with someone who lives "just" 2 hours away. I want my s.o. to share all of life's good & bad times with me. If someone close to me dies, I don't want to have to CALL my s.o. & hear him say, "Sweetie....gosh, I am soooo sorry. I will comfort you when I am out there next month." That's bull. Or have something GREAT happen & hear, "Sweetie, that's fantastic! I tell you what, we will celebrate big time when I see you in a month!!!!" BULLSHIT. That's utter crap. You cannot maintain a healthy relationship when you see your s.o. once a month (or less). You cannot. ESPECIALLY when one partner (ME) HATES to talk on the phone!
So yes, I liked Sammy. He's handsome, kind, smart, funny.....we definitely had some chemistry going on, I thought (obviously, he thought so, too). But...what would be the point? If I see him again this week, what would be the point of even kissing him? It really can't (or shouldn't) go any further. I don't generally (yes, I owned up to "generally") sleep with a guy that quickly, nor do I like the thought of a guy coming out here, getting a piece, & flying home....and who knows when we'd see each other again? That's silly. If he lived here....I imagine this would be a whole different story. But he doesn't. He lives thousands of miles away.
